Friday, March 31, 2023

永別了

After 12 years of being in the family... we finally bid farewell to our trusty, yet aging Odyssey.  We took her to LA and SD countless times, including infamously pulling over on Highway 5 so NN can go #2.  Went up to Tahoe without chains.  We've gone literally all over the Bay Area more times than we can imagine.  

It has served our family well.  But with the passage of time... came the passage of this family member.  The struts were off balance.  The shocks were miscentered.  The alarm was broken. The seals were worn out. The doors would jam. A lot of little things... and in the end... it just wasn't worth keeping around any longer.  

Another chapter must begin.... and this time.  We didn't even test drive our new car.  We just bought it off a catalog... figuratively and literally.  And it was delivered today.  Go figure.


Thursday, March 30, 2023

Tuesday, March 28, 2023

To be continued...

Ever have an exciting, wonderful, breath-taking dream where you're about to hit the climax of your story... then you wake up?!?!  And you do everything you possibly can to fall back asleep and pick up where you left off? Do dreams ever come to a satisfying conclusion? 

Monday, March 27, 2023

Pain Relief

Dad gave me a bunch of samples a few months ago… it’s coming in handy! Ha!!



Sunday, March 19, 2023

Aches and Pains

Kinesio Tape.  Icy Hot. 雲南白藥。 The only thing missing is Tiger Balm and that's cuz I lent it to {{someone}}.  My body is aching.  

It started with doing pull-ups.  I may have strained my left shoulder.  Nothing a little massage and rest couldn't correct, right??

Then I did some plumbing work... and really used my left arm.  To a point where if I move my arm to a certain angle... the pain is debilitating and I can hardly breathe.  To a point where... I was afraid I couldn't play volleyball with the kids this weekend.  

Thankfully... it's the left and not the right shoulder.  But still... when has this ever... EVER... happened?!?

Friday, March 17, 2023

How times have changed...

Was killing time... waiting to get lunch with mom.  So I stopped by Sts. Peter and Paul and walked around the church.  It's amazing how time has completely stood still in there.  None of the decor or statues have changed.  Yet... you won't find a speck of dust in the 10,000 square foot church!!  What really surprised me was... 1) they were playing some gregorian chants over loud speakers for the visitors (cool.. get into the ambience) and 2) candles are now $7!!! Back in the days.. small ones were $0.25 and big ones were $1.00.  Not only that... you can Paypal or Venmo the church.  Heh... technology.  


Thursday, March 16, 2023

少女心事

Volleyball tryouts... there are 70 girls trying out for 3 teams of 12.  Almost half the girls are getting cut.  Sixers... being the noobs to the school, will form their own team by default.  So it's really ~50 people for 24 spots. 

Tuesday - First day of tryouts and first day of cuts.  I'm standing outside the gym to greet her.  She's about to burst into tears to a point where Nina cautiously walks away.  "I didn't get cut, but I did horrible."  I gave her a hug... and asked her to say Hi to Auntie Nina.  (manners, girl, manners!!).  Apparently... she didn't get a chance to shine.  In the hitting lines... setters didn't give her good sets.  When she was playing setter... another hitter pushed her away and took the second ball.  None of the coaches saw her two 叉燒s.  On and on and on.... "I don't care which team I make.  I just don't wanna get cut."

Wednesday - Meeting runs long and I couldn't pick her up.  But Joyce texts me, "She's happy." I get home... and it turns out the girls were split up into two groups.  Group 1 - all 9 club players, the 2 most athletic 8th graders.... and NN.  Group 2 - 12 other girls.  Those who weren't in those 2 group - probably getting cut. Wednesday night... we get an email welcoming her to Team A.  She was on cloud 9.

Thursday - First official day of practice and it's the Mandatory Parents Meeting. She comes to look for me in the quad shaking her head. (Oh no.... ) After the meeting, she's in tears again, "I wanna quit daddy." Without skipping a beat... without even asking her why... I said, "Ok... let's go.  We're quitting." (Heh... bad parenting?) I knew she was just being hot-headed and emotional.  But it turns out... she's the "worst player on the team."  She "has no friends."  It's so "lonely out there."  "You won't understand daddy."  So I just heard her out... tried not to add fuel to the flame.  Agreed with her on 90% of the things.  Tried to reason with her about objective volleyball skill evaluations.  And at the end... convinced her to talk to her coach.  That's why she has a coach.  She wasn't gonna listen to me.  She convinced herself... that she needed validation from the coach.  

My eyes rolled so far back I can see the back of my brains.  

Ugh.... parenting teenagers.  


Saturday, March 11, 2023

商場佈道

It's been many years since I've gone out to the public and evangelized.  We use to do a lot at community colleges and Universities.  We've gone out to Asian Markets before.  I can easily blame COVID... but that's just an excuse.

Upon arrival... I was surprised to find a Buddhist group set up a table across from us, doing exactly the same thing!! But Christina and Tien Dao were more prepared.  We have music with an amp and speakers.  We had more prizes.  We had more flyers.  We were offering FREE Chinese school.  And I was responsible for making balloon animals - which were a hit!! 

The actual evangelizing is always hard.  To get through the initial wall of inertia.  The fear of being rejected.  Of being annoying.  Of being... "those people."  But when I saw my peers, my friends, being relentless.  And the titans like Miranda doing everything they can to grasp the next person that walks by... it really boosts my courage.


There was a point where it was just me and Tall Ken standing by the door.  That wasn't the ideal combination.  Two big men... hovering over mostly middle aged Asian ladies.  Heh... but then, a young man in his late 20's walk up to us.  He wants to talk to us!!! He works at 99 and was on his break.  We chatted it up for a few minutes and we easily moved to the Sinner's Prayer.  He accepted Jesus into his life on the spot... and his break was over... back to work.

One fish at a time... one life at a time.  

Thursday, March 09, 2023

Tale of Two Seasons

As the final seconds tick down... and BOOM... NN's Jr High Basketball Team goes 8-0.  

Earlier that day... the weather wiped out the one and only game where SW's Jr High Soccer team was going to play against the same age group (same skill level).  Their season ends with 1-5.  

That's right... Coach Henry finally got my first win.  That win... came on a forfeit... when the opposing team had too many players out sick.  TKA career record of 1-17.  Good gwarsh.... 

Tuesday, March 07, 2023

GGGGOOOOOOOLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!

Had our butts handed to us… but on our fifth game.. we finally drew first blood. It was on a Penalty Kick… on a flop, no less. The ball richocheted off the opponents goalie and spun over the line. GOOOOOOOOOLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!

And minutes later…. We scored our actual first legitimate goal. GOOOOOOOOOLLLLLLLL!!!

The kids were running wild... a little unsportsmanlike.  I had to walk over and explain to the coach this was the first goals of our season.  Then the boys started getting cocky... down 7-2... and I had to ground them a bit.  

But we scored!!! GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



 

Thursday, March 02, 2023

Science Camp 2023


Science Camp at Mission Springs.  This was something that SW missed at Heritage due to COVID, and his was payback, with a vengeance.  And I was blessed enough to volunteer to be a chaperone. 

3 days and 3 nights of being in nature.  How much better can it get?? Well.... the first day and 2nd day... it was downpouring rain!!  I had, supposedly, water proof hiking boots on.  But they're not water proof, they're water resistant!! Which meant... yes... they can certainly get wet.   So 1.5 days of hiking in the wet, cold rain.  Looking forward to a dry room where I can blow dry my shoes and socks dry...  only to be met by... a power outage!!!  So instead of dry, warm socks and clothes... I was left with cold, damp clothes.  To top it off... one of the kids in my cabin runs REALLY hot... and he didn't want the heater on in the room.  So it was even less of a chance for the clothes to dry while hanging!! 

The first day there... I was miserable.  "What am I doing here?!?!"  I didn't know anybody.  They kids were on their own.  All I did was stand on the side and made sure the kids didn't kill themselves.  But.... as the day grew into days... and I got to hang out with the parents (and the kids), things got better.  I need a meaning in life.  I can't just be a bystander.  I need to talk.  To communicate.  To contribute.  Praise God for a wonderful chaperone-mate (Peggy) that made my time there so bearable.  And praise God for all the chaperones that commiserated with my time there. 

Being in a room with 3 tweens is a challenge. I want to be the fun parent and let them be themselves.  But I still can't help myself when they got WAAAAAY out of hand.  Rick-Rolling people at 7:30AM in the morning...fine.  But laughing out loud and screaming after lights out... I had to step in and say, "Shhhhh...."  Watching them try and pack up their sleeping bag... I stepped back.  Watching them deal with a kid that runs HOT and wants the heater turned off over night... I stepped back.  Watching a kid wake up at 6AM... so he can run into the showers... so he can bang open/close the door... so he can turn on the bathroom light and wake everyone up... I stepped back. 

The organization of this event was impeccable.  The driving group.  The cabin-mates.  The hiking groups.  I was able to witness the 6 grade cliques and friend groups.  How they sat together during the meals.  I saw how they interacted with each other.  There was the sporty/athletic boys.  The Asian studious group(s).  The sporty / athletic girls. The quiet group.  The annoying/despised group. The quiet group.  The outcasts.  It was eye opening seeing my son in his own element.  Some of the kids I've known all their lives being in THEIR elements. It's hard to explain... but it was a blessing indeed. 

I was disconnected for 4 days.  We were far enough from civilization where I didn't get any reception.  My only connection to the outside world was when we were in the Worship Center or Basketball Court and there was Wifi.  It turns out...I really don't need google news or twitter.  I didn't need to text my friends or play Wordle/Mini Crossword.  This really was my way to disconnect and find myself.  I cherished every moment of it. 

There were a lot of moments in this camp that's memorable.  There was the chaperone who couldn't find one of the kids in his cabin for a solid 10 minutes and everyone was frantically looking.  There were the moments of chaperones sitting in the mess hall, each to a table, waiting for kids to show up and hoping you're not the last chaperone they pick.  There were the teacher's testimonies... each of which stood out on it's own, for a sharing geared towards 6th graders, it really hit a middle aged man really hard.  Moments after moments... but if I were to pick one moment... (like the Disney Magic Moment) for this camp...  it's gotta be the solo walk at the Night Hike.  Tuesday night... in a heavy drizzle... we hiked up the hills with our flashlights.  And towards the end... the Naturalists had us get accustomed to the dark by turning our lights off for a good 10 minutes.  Then it was time for the Solo Walk.  The Naturalist would walk about 100 yards ahead of our group... and Peggy and I would send the kids... one by one... 1 minute apart.  It wasn't completely dark.  The moon and stars were shining through the clouds above the trees and you can see the reflection on the puddles and also off of the white ponchos.  But between 16 heavy breathers and a tea light 100 yards away... there was nothing except for you... your thoughts... and God's nature.  This moment was downright spiritual.  

No one said a word.  I told them... I'm going to randomly pick and I blessed them to enjoy this moment.  There is no shame in fear or being nervous.  There was the brave one who volunteered to go first. The others quickly got in line... but I purposely picked them out of order.  I even sent the tiniest girl before some of the bigger guys.  Towards the end... two of the Sixers were petrified.  One started shaking and needed a big hug.  The other came up to me and whispered... "Can I not go last? Can you come with me?"  So I followed her... giving her a good 5-10 feet headstart. I didn't want to steal her moment.

As I was walking... I quickly realized that I was doing the Solo Walk myself.  I was a chaperone.  I was here to look after the kids.  I was here to help.  I'm that kid's lifeline.  But in that moment, I suddenly felt a surge of doubt.  Was I gonna make it??  Should I turn on my light?? Can I do this?? And in that moment... I paused.  I looked up.  I looked around.  I took everything in and enjoyed that moment... that moment in time.