Saturday, October 30, 2021

無名火

 At lunch yesterday... dad once again brought up the issue with my wrath... or as he puts it, 無名火.  90% of the time... I'm the most easy going guy you know. But if you step onto that final 10% and light my fuse... I will blow up on you.  Too many times... I've done it the past decade and taken it out on the kids.  During the day... work eats up all my margin with nothing left for home. 

The past week... I've been regretting those past 10 years. Re-thinking and re-living images of me yelling or screaming at an innocent child.  When their parents are their world... and those towering adults are coming down on them... their world crumbles.  And all they can do is helplessly stand there and take it.  Helplessly.

What happened? Why am I like this? Dad even brought up that Mom once brought up, "點解個仔變成咁?"  I don't even know... 

And as it was scripted on a TV show... I ended up blowing up on NN tonight.  I even scared myself with my anger.  After a long day of driving... I was tired and frustrated.  I was well past my 90%.  I didn't need any more enticement to explode.  But it happened.... and here I am... regretting... every... second... of it. 

Friday, October 29, 2021

死孤寒

Went out to the city to have lunch with dad by the Ferry Building.

Last night... I found parking lots/garages around there to set expectations.  But I was early today... so I checked out the street parking.

About 3 city blocks away... I found meters that cost $3.75 / hour.  Nice!!  3 city blocks... I have time.  Let's see if there's anything closer.

Traffic was bad in front of the Ferry Building.  Took me 15 minutes to move those 3 city blocks.  And as I should've expected, there's no parking in front of the building.  Grrrr.... and there's nothing 3 city blocks the other way.  I made mental notes of what's on the other side of the building.  Can always bust a U.  

As I busted that U.... I was led to some parking spots in a business district that's about a block away.  Woohoo!! I got out...tried to pay by phone.  Only to see that the spots are now $6 / hour!! Geeez!!!  No thanks.

So I slipped out and headed back to the main street.  Voila...!  Some spots directly across the street from the main entrance. $7!!!  Adios....  

Drove back to the original set of spots that were $3.75/hour.  Heh... 30 minutes later.  I started where I began.  But hey... I saved some chump change.  

Thursday, October 28, 2021

Why???

Another Executive Announcement came out.  This time... one of my peers made VP.  One of my biggest enemies at work.  Is it my personal bias? I don't think so... I get a bunch of messages with the same sentiment.  There's a pretty big Anti-Fan Club.  And somehow... these people... who step on everyone, chew them up... leave them for dead... continues to climb up the corporate ladder.

Here I am... running in place.  Jealousy? Envy? I dunno... possibly.  Why can't I be grateful for what I have.  What I deserve. 

Tuesday, October 26, 2021

Times have changed

Times are changing.  

Back in the mid 2000's... when I was hard over on 過大禮, there's a lot of traditional things we can't buy in US.  So we substituted it with 利是。 

Then as I hit my late 20's and 30's.... gift cards started replacing actual gifts.  "The gift that keeps on giving."  We run out of things to give... so why not just let ppl buy what they want.

A couple of years ago... we stopped with the physical gift cards and send virtual, digital gift cards.  There! We save on the plastic also.

And today... SW wants to get a bday gift for his friend.... Minecoins.  Virtual, digital... to be spent in a virtual world.  And y'know what... that'll be the best gift the kid will get for this birthday. 

Sunday, October 24, 2021

What in the world...???

Why is it that when a child misbehaves and a parent disciplines him/her.  The kid pouts, throws a fit, starts crying. Then it ends up being the parent that apologizes???  

Friday, October 22, 2021

Ear wax

I wrote about ear-wax a while ago... and how I need to Q-tip my ear despite general warnings of not doing so.  But for my bday... the kids got me a pair of Apple Airbuds.  They're an amazing feat of engineering with it's noise cancellation capability.  What's more amazing... is the soft, white membrane it uses to insert into the ear... always comes out of my ear with ear wax!!! Every time I pull it out... there's ear wax on it!!!  Dude!! How dirty is my ear?? What is the rate I generate ear wax?!?!? It's amazing!!! 

Wednesday, October 20, 2021

The moment you let your guards down

Went to a BBQ on Sunday. For the most part… we had masks on. But no one was social distancing and of course… we are (without masks) eating. Today… we find out someone tested positive!! WTH?!?!

Thankfully… their aging parents are ok. But what about us!?!?!


Took a rapid test and it came out negative. But still… to be safe, I’m gonna WFH for a bit. 

Sunday, October 17, 2021

Sweet 小華

Some time ago... SW was upgraded from regular SW to Sweet Siu Wah (SSW).  A title he truly deserves. 

Ever since he was young... he was simply likeable.  Non-competitive and always your biggest cheerleader.

When we went bowling.. NN would be steaming if she's trailing.  SW, on the other hand, would watch his "opponents" bowl.... then cheer, scream, beg!!! for each roll to be a strike.  

The past few nights.. we've been playing Monopoly.  You would never know which side he's on. He'll call out the number of steps that'll benefit you when rolling the dice.  He'll grab his head in playful disgust if he lands on your property.  And he'll be first to console you if things don't go your way.  I told Joyce it's just so much fun playing with him... he doesn't care who wins or loses.  He's there to have fun.  Then Joyce told me... "He came up stairs with tears coming down his eyes after you bankrupted him."  He didn't show me those tears.

Yesterday... we had a hang-out session at Mini-Golf.  And when his friend putts... he'll be screaming "Go No No!!" (Noah's nickname).  Again... not about competition.  Just good ol' fashion fun. 

The cherry on top of the sundae comes with the dreaded Claw Game at the arcades - where you are under a timer to position a claw to grab some tantalizing prize that's nearly impossible to get.  This claw machine basically had these cardboard rolls with numbers on them...representing tickets to exchange prizes.  And as statistics would have it... SW won 150 tickets.  His friend (No-No) followed... and he also grabbed a "150 ticket" cardboard roll...but as the claw was returning home to dispense the prize, the roll fell!!!  Without missing a beat... SW goes, "It's ok... I'll give you half of mine. 75 / 75."

Where does he get this from???? Rumor has it... that was me before I turned 10.  Hopefully (prayerfully), this stays with him forever, unlike me. 

Saturday, October 16, 2021

Father Daughter Moment

Was at Golfland today... and while chaperoning/babysitting SW and his friend... I saw a dad and his 1.5  - 2 year old daughter playing a Wheel of Fortune game.  The goal is to spin a giant wheel and you can win anywhere from 5 to 1000 tickets.  The girl obviously wasn't strong enough... so dad spun it for her.  The girl had no idea what was going on... but when the wheel stopped... the music went off and the lights started blinking!!  She was ecstatic!! Overjoyed!! She had nothing better to do but give her dad's knees a giant hug!! She was on cloud nine!! The tickets the wheel landed on... 5.  

Everyone wins - even the weird stranger spying on them. 

Thursday, October 14, 2021

That familiar feeling

Game 5 NLDS...and we came up short.  Hate this feeling.  Hate writing these posts....

I am: amazed we got this far
I think: this was our best chance, this half of the decade
I know: I can't take 2010, 2012, and 2014 for granted
I want: a Super Bowl more than a World Series
I have: so much to do... but not sure how to do it
I wish: we could've sprayed champagne tonight
I hate: that the Dodgers won on our home turf
I miss: the days of MCC
I fear: that I won't ever make Director
I hear: the dripping faucet in our bathroom
I wonder: what {{someone}} is doing
I regret: not going into medicine
I love: a nice hot shower
I ache: when I hear of cuts, sore knees and shoulders without any rest coming ahead
I care: about NN's well-being
I always: point out people's faults
I am not: a strategic thinking
I dance: and get winded
I sing: Alexander Hamilton
I cry: when {{someone's}} tapped out of CMPW and can't take OT
I do not always: tell it like it is
I fight: those to point their fingers at us
I write: because it is a relief
I win: when another soul comes to Jesus
I lose: when I cause others to stumble
I confuse: my kids with my dual personalities
I listen: to the BS Podcast
I can usually be found: in a White CRV
I need: a new project
I am happy about: NN's academic excellence
I should: fix or sell my Miata

Saturday, October 09, 2021

To combat the smell

There's a certain smell in this house... whether it's the paint... the mildew... the leftover scent of curry.  It's in the carpet.. in the walls.  We try to combat the smell with a little dish of baking soda everywhere.  We light candles in all the rooms.  And to rid our house of the smell of curry... we launch a war using good ol' Cantonese cooking... hot pot.  The house now...for the next few days... smells like Little Fat Sheep.  HA!

Thursday, October 07, 2021

Inventoried

My inventory system worked... I know exactly (almost) where everything is down to each box.  The only problem is... I don't know where the boxes are!!!! There's so many of them!! AHHHHHH!!!!! 

Tuesday, October 05, 2021

Not my house

 Half a week of living in a new house... and there are so many problems and issues.  The bathroom leaks and hisses.  The cabinets and drawers don't have a soft closing.  The lights flicker...probably due to mismatched lightbulbs.  The hallbath drains very slowly.  And worst yet... the smell. It's not the smell of our house... our home.  

NN said it best... "It feels like we moved into a giant AirBnB."

Saturday, October 02, 2021

Moving Day

Guess we'll start from last Thursday... it was late... I was still packing.  Been procrastinating cuz I knew that we had an escape path.  This wasn't the end game.  We weren't motivated.  But as we got to the eleventh and a half hour... I was focused.  Started boxing like mad... organizing... stacking.  Final count... 50 boxes.  Small, medium, large.  Each one labeled.  Each one accounted for.  Inventoried.  I was confident I knew exactly where everything was. I was skeptical that the movers will actually read the labels and put the boxes where they needa go.  More on that later... 

Got to bed around 2AM.... everything was done.  Remaining items were in the kids' room or bathrooms.   

The movers said they'll be here at 9AM.  I initially wanted them here at 8... but glad they planned it that way.  Knowing full well that it takes time for people to wake up and get out of bed. I specifically left the final dribs and drabs of food to make breakfast and lunch.  Then Joyce took them to school and I was alone.  

Panic struck. The bathrooms weren't packed!! So I ran and grabbed one of the few remaining boxes and threw everything in there.

Panic struck again.  Their rooms weren't packed.  Alarm clock. Glasses case.  Bed side stuff.  I threw their comforters into a closet, ripped off the bedsheets and wrapped up all their pillows 

Panic struck a third time.  My grill.  Heh... quickly disassembled it.  And then... 

At 8:45AM,  I'm done.  I have nothing else to do.  I have nothing else to pack.  Where are they?? I sit and wait.  There's nothing to do, but wait.  

They said they'll show up at 9AM. But no one is here. They're late.  Dang it.

9:15... they show up.  I didn't know what to expect.  They sounded like they were middle eastern on the phone.  Perhaps south east asian.  Turns out... they're Eastern Europeans!! Wow... Croatians.  That's new.  Two Eastern Europeans.  And then two Mexicans show up.  Within 30 minutes...all the boxes are packed.  cleared.  And they have everything Tetris'ed into the truck.  Onto the furniture.   Dang these guys are strong.  One man just picked up my sofa single handedly.  Piece by piece... they get the furniture onto the truck.  In the midst of everything... they see the box of biscuits dad got me for CNY... and I said..."Have it!!" They were famished.  They were so hungry.  I was glad someone liked it.  HA!!!  They finished half the box.  And then finally... "the beast" - our upright piano.  Heh... they're charging me an extra $350 for this.  They owner bought a plank. The entire crew were nervous and discussing this the entire time.  How to handle a simple upright piano?!?!

It was hilarious, side splitting, seeing them huddle up on how to move the piano.  The last time we moved it... the Chinese overs did it in 5 minutes.  3 old Chinese men vs. this crew of movers.  Amazing. Heh... but in the end, they figured it out.  They even figured out how to get my grill and the 4 bikes on the truck.  Lunch time. They needed an hour break.  Much deserved. The best part about the break... one of the guys asked,  "Wanna join us?"  I didn't expect that... and I was touched. 

But I didn't have time to have lunch.  I hurried to the new house to install the most important thing of all... WiFi.  The essentials.  But of course... nothing goes smoothly.  WiFi wasn't working.  So while they were moving... I was on the phone with Comcast.  Trying to multi-task to get it going... I failed.  The guys showed up around 1:30 and the move continued.  The first thing to decide... which way to go into the house.  Nothing was easy... the front door with a big opening? Or the garage with plenty of steps.  

After a series of contemplation... they started to unload, beginning with "the beast" going up a flight of cement steps and a flight of carpeted steps.  How I wish we coulda said, "Leave it in the bonus room" adjacent to the garage.  But that wouldn't work. Not for the future years of practicing. We ended up deciding to move the piano through the front door.  It was a simple move... supposedly.  But they made it soooo much harder for themselves.  There should be a youtube video on how to move a piano for non-professional movers.  I tried to interject with some of my thoughts... but why would they listen to a skinny Asian with no moving experience?? They aptly ignored my advice and continued their huddles.  

They ditched the piano plank... exactly what the Chinese movers used.  They had a nice dolly for rolling furniture...which they also ignored.  Instead, they dragged the beast over 6 feet of cobble stones... leaving a trail of white paint.  Then the used the fragile castors on the piano to roll another 20 feet before they got to a flight of 10 steps.  10 measly steps... 4 huge guys... 2 of which do professional strength training.  They barely did it.

It was as simple as ONE TWO THREE...HUH!!! ONE TWO THREE...HUH!!!  Nope.  Instead, they tried to power through it with brute strength.  A piano.  Without proper handles. CA-BOOM!! CA-BOOM!!  And with two steps to go.... they were all spent.  I was so scared that the piano will come crashing down... smashing my two movers... and making a new opening next to the front door.  They struggled.  They cried.  They used every last bit of their God-giving strength to heave the beast up that last step.  I stood there... helpless.  Scared. Fearing they'll die. And then... they finally got it to the top. 

"Hold on. Stop!" One of them cried. "I'm gonna black out."  That's how much strength they exerted.  More than they ever expected.  "I should have charged you more for the piano." The boss said to me.  But honestly... I wouldn't have given a penny more.  I tried.  I tried to call professional piano movers. But no one called me back.  The one who did call me back backed out after hearing about the stairs.  And to think... me and my college/high school friends moved that very piano from Daly City to San Jose.  Man.... we were strong (and stupid). 

From then on.... it was a breeze, all things considered.  We had four flights of stairs. I tried to help (to hurry the move, cuz I was charged by the hour.). But I needed to be by the truck to direct traffic.  "That goes to the garage.  That goes upstairs."  

I wasn't expecting them to follow the labels on my box... I was expecting all the boxes to end up in the garage and Joyce and I would need to lug it up the stairs ourselves. But they were professionals down to the last box.  Every box.... ended up exactly where I had wanted them.  My calves were so tired from running up and down the stairs. And that was without carrying 50 lb boxes!!! How did these movers do it???

From then on... and for the next 3 hours.. they methodically moved every single box to its final destination.  And when it came time to pay my bill... they charged me exactly what they quoted me.  Drive time.  Stairs. Piano. Gas. Etc... they were not cheap... not by a long shot.  But I enjoyed my conversations with them.  I enjoyed the time I had with these overs.  To a point, where I was wondering if they'll ask me for a tip.  They didn't.  Not a peep out of them... unlike my previous movers... how were downright rude and about to bust a cap into me for not tipping enough. I ended up giving a $50 to each of the movers personally... and they were ever grateful.  Deep down... I feel like if I gave a $20... they woulda been happy. But so be it... what's done is done.  Money... is worth less than it use to be.  I'm blessed to be in my position.  They gave me exceptional service... I will not be stingy, not in this case.

As we parted... I told them... "David.. I'm not kidding... I'm going to call you next time I move." And he replied, 'Thank you for the business, Henry.  I will be ready. "

I was drained.  From all the hustle and bustle.  Luckily... we have our new neighbors, the Yu's, in which we had dinner together.  I really wanted some comfort food of rice an Peking Spare ribs.  Instead, we had Korean Burgers and fries.  Close enough.  I wasn't going to argue.  I was famished.  And then... our first night at new house...let the adventures of unpacking begin...